In South nearly everything revolves around food; both of my parents are overweight, so some of their bad habits transferred to me, like having cake for breakfast, eating a lot of fried food, and rarely consuming veggies. I also had very little self-control; I could easily eat a whole bag of chips and usually ate until I felt sick. Since age 13 my weight has been hovering around 200 pounds, and since I went to a very small high school—my graduating class was 50 people—I was the biggest one in my class and was picked on pretty badly. I hated work outs, and never played any sports, and that carried over into adulthood.
Being overweight honestly perturbed my life in random ways, like not wearing tennis shoes because it was so hard to bend over to tie them. Sometimes, little kids would point and say hurtful things, even if they didn’t mean to be rude. On my wedding day in 2013—I weighed 312 pounds.
I remember that night I dined at a swanky restaurant along with my husband and my 1-year-old daughter, and she kept dropping her toy on the floor. We were seated in chairs – & each time I bent down to grab her toy, the chair would come off the ground. I felt really uneasy because I knew if I fell everyone would stare at me. It was a sort of wake-up call, and I realized that I had to do something quickly.
So I and my husband joined a gym and began working-out four days a week. We’d work out for an hour to an hour and a half per day. Although it seemed a bit intense for beginners like me, but I was terrified of dying. I was scared of getting diabetes or another obesity-related illness. That fear helped push me to work out.
In order to avoid damaging my knees as I was 300 pounds, I chose walking, biking, or using the elliptical. Finally, I started lifting weights—and I loved seeing that I was getting stronger and could do everyday tasks like picking up my daughter more easily.
I also did a bit of dieting but it totally backfired on me as I was only eating salads and not enough protein to keep me full and satisfied. So instead of being strict about the food I ate and started keeping watch on my portions by measuring out or weighing everything I ate. Instead of frying chicken I baked it—and ate whole wheat pasta, bread, and brown rice instead of the white versions, Furthermore, I recorded all of my meals on the My Fitness Pal app, which has helped a lot. One more trick I employed to re-train my brain to feel full after a normal-sized meal was drinking a big glass of water afterward. Losing weight is more of a mental game.
I started to lose weight and meanwhile I also posted pictures of me working out and cooking on Instagram. Over time, my feed started to gain a ton of followers. Presently I have over 8,000 and use @Roxi_Fitness to provide fitspiration. My weight has dropped to 216 pounds and am looking forward to being under 200 pounds—for the first time in more than 10 years—very soon.
Weight loss has brought in many rewards both mental and physical. I no longer suffer from depression and anxiety attacks, and always feel amazing. As I go to gym with my husband my marriage has become stronger. We love having the designated time to ourselves, and it makes us both feel more confident. One more thing that has happened in me is that I can run; not a mile yet but I’m working toward it and am so thankful that I can run at all.
Allow yourself a cheat meal. I don’t always eat super healthy, rather allow myself a cheat meal once week. It’s either food at a birthday party over the weekend or a nice dinner with my husband. But I know that after that meal, I will get right back on track.
Weigh yourself daily. I am aware that being a woman my weight is going to fluctuate a lot depending on hormones, so my trick is to weigh myself almost daily so that I know that I’m staying on track. It helps keep me accountable.
Take measurements. Although it may seem crazy but I measured different areas of my body before I started losing weight. Those measurements proved really useful when I went through periods of not losing weight despite sticking to my plan. Some days I wouldn’t see any weight loss, but my body measurements were always changing as I was shaping up by working out, and that helped keep me motivated.