There will be two major kinds of people reading this blog: those who think they’re better equipped to understand some of the people they love and those who see their own reflections in these habits.
Depression many a time goes unnoticed, undetected, and undiagnosed. People with depression that’s kept secret are ones who are adapted to mange their inner demons, in a way that doesn’t make them clearly visible. They may or may not be diagnosed, and this may or may not be something they’ve shared with even their best buddies. The trouble is that the world turns darkest when we all stop being able to understand each other. We have a tendency to think that hardship is worn openly upon one’s chest like a battle scar, however, a lot of these wounds do not easily reveal themselves to those who do not take the time to look.
1.They may intentionally make efforts to appear OK and maybe even seem exponentially happy and upbeat.
People with depression often seem the most ”happy” people that you know. These kind of people try to stick with the positive and public parts of their demeanor, regardless of what they’re going through on the inside.
2.They may have habitual remedies.
There are certain lifestyle habits that those having depression use to treat their everyday state-of-mind. It can be basically anything like music, exercise, driving, walks, etc.
3.They may have trouble with abandonment.
People who’ve undergone depression understand the burden it can be. It can also be a burden for those closest to them. At times, when you let people in enough to see the struggles you have, they simple turn their back on you. Despite the fact that it’s tough to blame these people for leaving, it creates a serious feeling of abandonment for those with depression. It forges a need for secrecy, out of fear of the recession of those they love.
4.They can be pros at “cover-up” stories.
This can be for anything from cuts on their arms to the reason they skipped dinner. People prone to different kinds of depression experience all sorts of hardships that can sometimes hamper the normalcy of their daily lives. In these low instances, they come up with something to say that avoids attention from others to those displays of pain.
5.They may have abnormal sleeping and eating habits.
Some typical signs that people with depression show include: sleeping too much or too little, eating too little or too much. For them to sleep is almost impossible, or they use sleep as an escape from depression. The same goes for eating.
6.They may understand substances differently.
People who’re trying to manage their depression know how to monitor what they put into their body. They’re aware that alcohol cause depression, and that drinking it over an extended period of time can create a mental state of low that they are less equipped to handle than the average person. They know that caffeine and sugar can boost up their moods. They know all of this because altering their state of mind in any way is much more of a responsibility than it may be for other people.
7.They may exhibit a very involved perception of life and death.
Depression many times induce a unique and complex thought process about life in general. Facing one’s mortality many times come at moments of distress. It occurs when you are frantically seeking answers to all of life’s questions. Being dragged in and out of horrible mindsets can bring on these sort of thoughts to be more frequent.
8.They are often uniquely talented and expressive.
A sizable chunk of the most inspired and life-changing artists, musicians, and leaders of this world were also beset by mental illness. People who don’t show their depression often express themselves in incredible ways. They have the ability to formulate and illustrate beauty through the shadows of the emotions they carry.
9.They are often searching for a purpose.
People with unseen depression always look for a purpose in life — they want to know what they’re doing is worthwhile, and want to know that they’re moving in the right direction. They’re often seen trying to compensate in their life for the frailties that they have inside. They’re always trying to pursue true happiness.
10.They at some times will release subtle cries for help.
People who’re trying to hide their depression —- they too need some kind of help. Sometimes they will reach out. Sometimes they will open up. These instances are the most vital, because they are especially powerful. They are what builds a bridge between people who have different levels of emotions and mindsets. They are what prompts a closeness and trust among friends and lovers
11.They seek love and acceptance, as every person does.
People who hide their personal demons do so for protection. They are in fact trying to protect their hearts. They are in fact trying to protect the people around them. They’re doing it to protect the success of their dreams.
12.The fact is that people with unseen depression are searching for love and acceptance.
I feel that rather than turning away from people who seem to be struggling — we should try to love them even if it’s difficult. And my advice to people living with depression is —- you should cry when you need to & reach out when someone closes the door.